Friday, December 14, 2012

Fero

In discussion with the meaning of relationship, Clark Moustakas, one of the leading experts on humanistic and clinical psychology, has a good insight on the term relate:

The term relate is paradoxical. It comes from the Latin word refero. Suffer is derived from a similar Latin root, suffero. Thus, they share a common base, fero, “to bear,” to carry,” “to put up with.” In every genuine relationship, to achieve ultimate meaning, we must submit to it, undergo it, endure it, suffer with it. We must return again and again to its nature and its unfolding patterns, carry something of it with us. We must grapple with the intimacies of relationship, must surrender to its up and downs, and live with its burdens and stresses. [Being-In, Being-For, Being-With (Northvale: Jason Aronson Inc., 1995), p. 70.]
To relate is to suffer; to suffer is to bear, to carry, or to put up with. If we do not want to put up with the problems of others, we are not relating. We relate with no commitment or a sense of detachment or live in isolation because we are afraid of suffering. As a consequence, we stop following. Jesus suffers because he carries the burden of humanity. In other words, we are called to put up with it. “A disciple is not above his teacher, nor a servant above his master” (Matt. 10:24 ESV). In relating, we are following. To avoid suffering, we are not following.

I have pastoral ministry in my mind as I am writing this. To serve in the church is to put up with the church. To relate to the church can be a burden and cause stress. As I was reading Ephesians the other day, I meditated upon the role of the church in God’s overall plan: “So that through the church the manifold wisdom of God might now be made known to the rulers and authorities in the heavenly places….to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen” (Eph. 3:10, 21 ESV, emphasis mine). The visible Christ made the invisible God visible. The mystery of God is now made known through the body of Christ. The church does have a strategic, mediatorial role in God’s plan. How do I relate to the church? How do I follow Christ as a churchman?

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